This site attracts a wide variety of readers, but the majority comprise partners of serving members of the military whose other halves disappear regularly on periods of exercise, training and deployment for months at a time putting copious amounts of stress on their relationships.
If I had a pound for every search hit on this site that resulted from someone typing a variation of “I am a military partner and I can’t cope” into Google, I would be a very wealthy woman.
Particularly this site attracts men and women who live unaccompanied away from the base. Living away from camp leaves the ‘unaccompanied’ partner feeling incredibly isolated at times, and these times are when they require the most support. Sadly, they are commonly far too proud to ask for it, and the MOD too stretched to cope with even attempting to monitor them until something dreadful happens that enforces it.
What do I have to say then to my fellow military partners? Only that it is OK not to feel like you do not want to do this any more It is alright to hate your lot. It is normal to feel alone and angry. It is not wrong to feel resentful. It is natural to wonder why the hell you got into such an unnatural relationship. It is perfectly fine to enjoy your freedom when they are away yet equally to feel crowded when they are at home and paradoxically it is more than acceptable to pine for them in private and to cling like a limpet upon their return.
The one thing you are guilty of forgetting is that in the grand scheme of things you are not alone. Through writing this I have learned that there are (literally) thousands of us in this situation and often the women who outwardly seem the most together are caving in on the inside. It is most un-British to collapse in a heap and ring all your friends when you are emotionally fragile, so you bottle it up. Suck it up. Lock it all away, until you cannot take it any more and explode. Sound familiar?
I hope this site helps you in your moment of head-exploding stress, please have a nosy around, make sure you read the comments from other people in the same boat!
Fighting small battles wins the war….
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Written very well, thanks.
I love your blog! It’s os nice tofinally find other people who are in the same boat! so reassuring! I will keep an eye out for more blogs
Thank you for this. It is an incredibly solitary existence, and it is true that if you aren’t part of this ‘club’, then it is very hard to understand. Thank you for expressing what I can’t say in your posts and allowing that small bitter part of me to realise that it’s not just mine and my partner’s relationship – all Military relationships are the same.
Perfect. Exactly how I feel. I have just moved 200 miles away from a home I didn’t leave for 25 years to live on a “pads” estate with my husband and our 7 month old baby boy. A baby boy that was born while my husband was out fighting in Afghanistan, by far the most difficult and emotional time of my life. It is an extremely lonely world, trying to make new friends just find out that 4 months after you moved your life, you have to move again. But then of course, you must always be understanding because whatever they have been through is so much worse *insert sarcasm*. I love my husband very much and I wouldn’t change him for the world…being a soldier makes him who he is and I love that version of him more than anything. But it is true, it becomes your life aswell and a lonely one at that most of the time.
You blog has given me that little bit of hope and I shall continue to subscribe.
With love x
You may not have the answers but you are clearly a huge source of comfort and hope to so many readers. For me, this world is one that I found myself entangled in almost by accident, through acceptance of a job closed linked to the Armed Forces. And my god it is a learning curve, however I now cannot imagine a life outside it despite having recently parted from my soldier love. Reading your blog makes things just that wee bit easier, so thank you x
Hi. Just found you via twitter retweet!Just read this and agree so much. I am a navy wife, husband on one of the new destroyers so was based in Glasgow for 18months (I stayed at home on the south coast) and he’s off a lot on trials. I didnt want to leave my life – that wouldnt work for us. I was living pretty much alone – hed come home weekends, but with travelling to and from airports we didnt have much QT – this was all during the whole of my pregnancy, and of course he missed the birth. It;s not a tale of woe though, just giving you the background. He has a seven month deployment coming up – well March, and Im dreading it but am ‘sucking it up’. You’re so right about the isolation. With a two year old, the isolation is awful – your words ring true. I am looking forward to reading more of your blog.
I love this! I share your sentiments exactly! I got involved with my boyfriend and fell deeply in love when all of a sudden he had to go on a 6minth deployment shattering all our plans, hopes & dreams . I moved cities after a 5mnth long distance relationship to be closer to him. We were going to move in together & everything was going to be hunky dory. How naive. I didn’t really know much about the fucking military apart from the protests I used to attend as a dreadlocked hippy. But I’m like a crazy lady now… Waiting.. Jobless & feeling emotionally fucked up in this new city.
This blog is the best cos it’s real. All thr others tell me how I shouldn’t be resentful and how I should pray to god. Make lemonade out of lemons. Fuck your lemons!
Thanks for your words. I don’t feel alone anymore
I am so scared! I have all this coming and now I am freaking out x
Don’t be scared! The military community will look after you. If that fails get online haha! x
I already had an idea what I was getting into and I’d do anything for my Boyf, but reading this at first scared me but I’m just glad I know fully now! I really don’t know how you all have done so long and just got on with it! I am so scared, I hate being alone. And what’s this about a wall of silence?! Ahhhhhhhhh so much to take in yet also forget! X
For now forget it all and take it as it goes, then if you find it hard come back and compare notes. It’s so different for everyone I promise and if you have a strong relationship it does test it yes but you will be FINE I promise x
I know exactly how you feel, I have my boyfriends first deployment ahead of my, 6 months away at sea, I try not to think about it, but it keeps creeping into my thoughts. Havent seen him since New Years and will see him again at Easter. Its so difficult. Guess the ladies have to stick together, after all, we’re all in the same boat!
Haha yes, it’s like my therapy when my other half is away. He’s at home at the moment but not for long so will probably be whining again no doubt
good luck. It’s a very interesting world your man is going into and I hope you enjoy going along with him even if it does take a LOT of getting used to x
Wow again!! You just simply catch my feelings lol! I keep a blog running myself and try to get my feelings sorted by writing. To be honest – it helps a lot! Check it out if you fancy one day. I’m currently in the state of being so angry with everything and everyone. My latest blog is called “Hang in there”. I’ve been told to hang in there so bloody often! I know I have no choice. I didn’t waste the past 18 weeks of waiting and walking through hell sometimes to now take a step back and walk away! No way. As hard as it may be at the moment. I promised to stick to him and I will. At least I hope. All I can do is try and always try my best to support him. Even thou I haven’t spoken to him in a month. What we do is absolutely selfless. I’d be really pleased when I’ll see some of you on my blog as well. V x
Thank you for writing this blog, you manage to put into words all the things we feel but do not know how to write down. I find myself getting teary eyed while reading because the nerves just below the surface are still raw even after 7 years, 2 operational tours (third coming up soon) and a child. It’s a lonely life, but someone has to keep the home fires burning, eh?
And P.S I knew exactly what I was getting myself in for. It doesn’t make it any easier, but it makes me respect my mum and army dad heaps more every day.
I am so glad I found this. My bf is in the Navy and was posted in December to Pakistan for his final 2 years. It’s truly agonising. I finally found the love of my life only for him to be whisked away while I pine for him.
Thank you x
I really can’t thank you enough for writing this. I would write more, however I can’t seem to see the screen properly through the tears of relief at not being on my own in these feelings! From one who outwardly seems perfectly together who has recently exploded – Thank you
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xx
I have been with my partner for four years, we married over a year ago however in that year i think i have seen him for perhaps a few months. In the space of a few months i graduated university, planned our wedding and moved to a pads house and wow what a emotional journey it has been!!! In that year he was in Kenya, then Breacon to complete Juniors, then back to do pre deployment training and now he has deployed to Afghan for 7 months.
It took me a long time to adjust to living on the pads estate, especially as most of the wives keep themselves to themselves and the ones that don’t ( the certain group the “run” the pads estate) should!
If i could do this all again i would make sure we lived off base as it would have made it easier for my husband to “switch off” from army life and also give me a sense of normality rather than living in this army bubble. It took me a long time to get used to having the guard room opposite whilst hanging my undies up to dry on the washing line… ! Or walking the dog trying to avoid coming across groups of squaddies kitted up and doing exercises or hearing shots on the firing range.
I think this tour, which is his third but the second one since being together, is easier so far than the first as i feel like i know i can get through it so its a case of getting myself into a routine and making sure i don’t stay in the house.
On his last tour my phone was permanently glued to my hand so i didn’t miss a phone call-i would carry it to the toilet to the shower, sleep with it in my hand when i go to bed, days and weeks of waiting for a phone call, a month passes and then sods law the one time i don’t take the phone i miss a call. Queue breakdown and crying and friends who don’t have army husbands/boyfriends not quite getting it. Excepting that you will probably miss one of his calls whilst he is on tour is the best way to stop you going a bit mad and breaking down when you do. You start to hate seeing your friends with their boyfriends doing “normal” things like watching tv together, going out to the cinema, just holding hands or snuggling with someone, its gut wrenching to know you can’t do that for months.
On his last tour i had this terrible sinking feeling that something was going to happen but convinced myself i was just scared he was leaving. Four months in i woke up crying in the night thinking god im an emotional wreck what am i crying about now- to then receive a phone call from my then Fiance doped up to his eyeballs on morphine with him telling me that he had been blown up but was ok then the phone cuts off. I remember sitting thinking how can some one be ok when they have been blown up?! After a few hours of trying to get information from someone and being told i had not been put down as next of kin- something that i urge you all to triple check with your hubbys/boyfriends, it was finally confirmed and i was picked up and taken to Selly oak in Birmingham. To cut it short he recovered, had wonderful support down in Headly Court and is out in Afghan now. So i feel that the last tour was so crap that im ready for this one now if that makes sense. I know the worst could happen, god forbid, but i don’t dwell on that fact.
My family live 6 hours away, i don’t have many friends here- going from a university lifestyle with a lot of friends to here with none is hard, however i think the best thing i did was force myself to get a job, any job, to get myself out the house. To all of you struggling, make yourself a list of things you want to do or get done whilst he is away and stick it to your fridge. Then each day pick something off it to do, it gets you through the day and gives you a sense of purpose. For example anything from a good spring clean working from room to room (my mum wrote that on it, lol thanks mum!), passing my driving test, meeting a work friend to go swimming each week. Things like that. And remember making parcels for your hubby is just as rewarding for the person making it as you can take your time and really plan what you are putting in it to make it special for your loved one.
Getting a dog was something that really helped also as i think i would of gone stir crazy rattling round the house on my own, having a dog makes you get out and about each day getting fresh air and exercise and plus i sleep better knowing there is someone else in the house. That and spraying a bit of my husbands aftershave on the pillow each night!
Its strange to think that we wish away the best part of half a year waiting for them to come back, but i for one want to make sure that when i look back i at least did something in that time as you have to remember your life is just as important as the one you are waiting for.
Sorry to have rambled on but i just wanted to let you (whoever it is that reads this) that you can get through this and you will be a stronger person for it, and your relationship will be too.
What a brave and emotionally strong woman you are. I am almost two years into my first every military relationship and encounter of any kind. I find it takes a few days to “get him back” to being the smiley relaxed man I love…. but it’s hard . I have lots of friends and work- to constantly be doing things apart feels so empty and it is on going. He does not seem to find it so hard , but he has had over 20 years of practice of it all… lots of love to all strong and wonderful
women out there .
I have only just found your site however I can identify with everything that you are saying. I have known my fiancee for 9 years, he has been in the Army for 5. We are now getting married in October however he is away now until August, and then away again next year. I have not yet made the move to an Army base – is it the right decision? Can anyone shed any light? Thank you x
It is the right decision, but only if it is the right decision for you. Lots of factors to consider, your work, your plans for the future, finances. Many wives make the move and are happy, some move, hate it and move back. Others live where they want to and their husband commutes. It has to be what is right for you both (sorry!)
My boyfriend was due back from Afghanistan on Monday (now Thursday) and I know it moves about blah blah blah but trying not to get excited when he calls to say he’s got a flight is really hard. I haven’t heard from him for a while (2 days) so I’m hoping he’s finally made in onto a flight home!
Even though I’n not the only one, it’s so nice to see it written down. I’ll definitely be revisiting this blog to cheer myself up every now and again when he’s away.
To all the ladies who have left such brave and inspirational words on this amazing blog – I thank you from the bottom of my heart!
As a complete newbie to this bizarre Army life I have been struggling in the worst way. My life has never crossed the military path before and having quite unexpectedly met and fallen in love with a soldier just 9 months before he was sent off to Afghan in April it has been a roller-coaster ride of “firsts” ever since.
Having stumbled across this site quite by chance, it is such a delight to read nearly all of my own thoughts, fears, sadnesses and woes echoed by others – it does somehow make it better.
Being a total ‘civvie’ with no links to the army other than him it can feel immensely isolating – my family and friends are super supportive and I love them all for that, but they just dont seem to quite understand. Here I know I am amongst friends who truly do.
So thank you again for this place to put my head back together in a way I’ve not felt for such a long time.
Katie x
Katie,
I was in much the same position two years ago when I started dating my fiancee. We are now due to be married in 3 months, and although he’s going on tour next year again I know that we’ll get through it.
The relationships we have with our soldiers are worth a million ‘civvie’ ones and are really really worth fighting for.
Thinking of you and everyone who is in this position.
Alex x
Hey Alex, thank you for your kind words, support from people who”walk the walk” means so much. Congratulations on getting married, I wish you both all the love and luck in the world, a long and happy life together. My boy is home in 6 days for rnr and the chaotic feelings are rushing all around, I’m so excited but full of trepidation too. That’s normal I guess, but two whole weeks together is worth it, goodness me, it’s worth it!! Thank you again, much love Katie x
Hi Katie!
I know your comment is quite old, but I’ve just read it and have completely related to you!
Im a proper, full on civvie or, as he lovingly refers to me, ‘f*cking civvie’ along with the ever sarcastic eye roll!
I wasnt planning to meet and fall in love with a military man but I did and now he’s off to Afghanistan just as I’ve barely got used to the ‘normal’ side of army life (army camps, conversations that make absolutely no sense, and all the other things that come with dating what seems like the whole army at times!)
Whilst it doesn’t make it any easier to cope with, it really is reassuring to know that other people like you are in this same situation!
I hope it all goes well for you
X
I am a total newbie to this army life. One of my close friends joined the army 4years ago, he has been on tour twice in that time and although i was worried, it never really made an impact on my life. 2weeks ago however we realized we were meant to be together, after discovering we both loved each other, we have had the most amazing (and intense) 2weeks while he has been back home. He has now just left me to go on exercise in Jordan for 5weeks.
I am missing him so much already and he aint even been gone 24hours. Not really sure how our new and perfect romance will cope with him being away from me so soon into the relationship, but after discovering this site and reading the posts I feel we may just manage.
sam xx
hi ladies. not many recent posts so prob won’t get a response.. here goes. i have been with my boyfriend just over a month now, i know that doesn’t seem long but since we got together we have spent every night together and literally been inseparable. we love each other so much. he applied for the army 2yrs ago and its only just come round now for his basic training to start. i couldn’t ask him not to leave as he wanted to go before we got together as his life wasn’t going anywhere and he felt lost.but now we are together he says he has never been happier. he started basic on Monday and despite saying he misses me i think he will quick it out. i literally cry every single day for at least 2hours, i hate that he has left me. iv given him everything and have promised not to leave him. but i just don’t see how i can cope. if he loved me then surely he would leave and come home now he has a future with me? in my eyes he is choosing the army over me, but still wants me to be his girlfriend? wat possible benefit do army girlfriends get from having a part time boyfriend? i just hate every minute that i can speak to him, hug him, it feels like im doing everything to please him yet i will never get anything in return, is the relationship ever going to be 50/50? someone please help my mind is going crazy and i just keep crying
( sorry for the essay! Millie x
*stick it out
*can’t speak to him,hug him
Hi Millie
I’m going to sound incredibly harsh but I’m afraid you’re being incredibly selfish asking him to leave the Army to come home and be with you. Yes it is a harder life to live but if it is what he wants to do then your love for him should translate into support for his choices. Despite all the separation the Army is a fantastic career for him to go into. I think you’re just experiencing your first taste of separation anxiety, it’s just a wave you need to ride through I’m afraid.
If you really don’t think you can be with someone who is away most of the time then it may be you who needs to leave him, but it is definitely not your place to stand between him and his dream career – imagine if he was doing it to you? I for one would go absolutely mental if my man tried to stand in the way of my dream job.
Try not to worry about it too much, your relationship is young and you will adapt. You will learn the traits of every Army girlfriend soon, patience, strength and flexibility – oh and a strong tolerance to wine!
Good luck to you both xx
So glad to have found your blog!
My boyfriend is a marine and he has only been gone nearly 3 weeks and I am not coping so well!
Comforting to read ppl in the same position and I’m not alone xxx
I’m so glad i found this,
i met my boyfriend in october last year through friends, didnt really think that much of it at the time.
we added ach other on facebook and commented on each others posts occasionally and that was about it.
we started chatting in january and i found out hed been on deployment in Bahrain (hes navy) since december.
we were just engaging in general chit chat and he just randomly said ,i think you should fly out to Dubai and come see me.
i have no idea what possessed me, i have never done anything like this before but i checked my work roster and happened to be off for the same week that he had leave in Dubai so i agreed.
from that moment onwards, for 3 months, we talked every day. by the time i flew out to Dubai in April i already knew i was desperately in love with him. we ‘officially’ got together on my first day out there and had an amazing week together, he told me that he felt the same way I did and we agreed that he would move in with me when he came home.
For the rest of his deployment we spoke daily, sent letters and parcels and little presents to each other, I went to his home town on my own to meet his parents (very scary!) but they wouldnt hear of me making my own way to brize to meet him when he came home and i didnt want to spend hours in a car with complete strangers so i went up to meet them first.
After whast seemed like forever waiting for him at brize he finally stepped through those doors. I got a one armed cuddle, a kiss on the cheek and a ‘hiya babe’.
not exactly the big romatic reunion i had been picturing for months, massive let down but he was tired and had been travelling for ages.
so he finally made it home and moved in, as promised, we had an amzing time during his 6 1/2 week leave, everything seemed perfect.
now this is where the tough part starts.
he is now back at work, over 100 miles away. i get to see him most weekends but now im used to having him around its horrible.
it is really so tough. when hes home he is so attentive and everything iv ever wanted but when hes away he never seems to have time for me.
i get stupid, jealous because other people get to see him and i dont, i get depressed, so depressed, it just seems like im on auto pilot during the week.
i get up, go to work, come home, watch crappy tv, go to bed and repeat.
it is causing strain on our relationship, i keep thinking that its not forever (as hes planning on leaving when he gets his 8 year bonus) but its still another 3 or 4 years off.
it is hard enough at the moment and hes only away during the week.
what about when he goes to scotland for god knows how long, on tours round the country or, god forbid, sent out to the gulf for another 7 months!?
i am trying so hard and putting my all in, im trying to trust him but thismorning i had an awfull feeling he was hiding something.
he was behaving differently, he had a lock on his phone that was never there before and never let it out of his sight.
so i asked if i could have a look, he gave me his phone and whilst flicking through his inbox, found a message from an un saved number.
it was something along the lines on
‘hi its emily, you gave me your numer in tiger tiger the other night, hows your head blah blah blah xxx’
i asked him about it, he told me it was the guys on the ship messing about, that they do things like this all the time.
i dont know what to believe. what would you think?
I am willing to put myself through hell for the next 3-4 years if i know its worth it and we will have the future that we have planned and if i can trust him but after that text im not sure what to think.
I just feel stressed and down and alone, confused and so bloody angry most of the time because hes not here.
it was great to read your blog and know im not alone.
if anyone can offer me any words of wisdom/ encouragement (and maybe give me a clue about this whole texting business) it would be very much appreciated.
thanks for listening to me rant! (sorry i went on for do long)
I think that you need to sit him down and tell him all of this, as he is the only one who can tell you if all the waiting will be worth it. Ask for total honesty, no matter how hard that may be for him.
Good luck xxx
I have done this. He has told me about the reality of it and although its going to be hard I am willing to try my hardest.
The main thing on my mind at the moment is the business with this text. he is still adamant that it was the guys from the ships phone and that the reason it was going to voicemail when i called is because the ship was dormant at the weekend but now theyre all back on and its still going to voicemail.
i wont give up and i cant feel comfortable until i have gotten to the bottom of this one way or the other
xxx
Been with my boyfriend 6 years, he starts training for the army in Jan. He is so excited and im so proud of him, although I am scared about it. This blog has made me feel a mixture of emotions, but overall I’m feeling positive, going to do a masters degree after I finish uni to keep me busy and want to go travelling too. Then who knows what will happen, but I know that I will do everything in my power to make it work because I respect his decision, it’s his dream. Thanks for writing this
I know you’ve stopped writing, but I just wanted to thank you for your blog. I’m so new to this. I only met my boyfriend a few months ago and now he’s away for 7 months. I thought I would cope. I’ve been writing romantic letters, sending parcels, getting excited of phone calls. I didn’t choose to fall in love with a military man. I’m a ‘civvie’. I have no clue what to wear to an army ball (but it was fun dressing up) and I have no clue what his officer friends are talking about half the time. I don’t even have a thing about men in uniform ( although he looks great in his!) This has all just happened and now I’m beginning to realise just what I’ve got myself into.
Tonight, I wanted to give up. I wanted to walk away. I wanted to give it all up. I’ve tried to keep busy. I’ve taken on extra work, I’ve been training in the gym for several events and I’ve even taken up dancing lessons. But tonight I just wanted him. And the truth has hit me that even when this tour is over, there will be more. There will be redeployments and I can’t move. It will always be long distance and it will always be this tough.
Reading your blog has made me realise these doubts are normal. I have fallen in love with the man and it’s ok to be worried about the future, but you’ve coped as have thousands of others. I can too.
Thank you so much!
X
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment, I do pop on now and again and I’m really pleased it’s given you comfort x
I can totally relate to this. I’ve felt exactly the same
xx
Hello
I found your blog via Google. It has helped me so much. I’ve been with my boyfriend 6 months (feels so much longer it has to be said haha) and he has been deployed to the Falklands (left on Wednesday) I had felt so many different emotions and I feel extremely lonely right now as i have no friends or family who have relationships with anybody in the forces, I’m not familiar with the process as yet so this blog and everyone who has commented has helped me a lot. I know every time he goes it should get easier I just miss him so much already.
Thanks again xx
Jane, your comments ring true to how I was feeling earlier on this week. My boyfriend is in the Army, he’s been away since the end of Jan, is just heading to El Centro for pre-deployment then off out to Afgan until end of Sept.
I have real up and down days, I miss him soo much! Some of my friends have been amazing, they’ve been there through and through.. even if it was just to provide a big hug!! Whilst others just don’t seem to ‘get it’. They have never experienced our situation and I guess don’t understand how tough it can be?!
It makes it so much harder when you can’t even talk to your other half, it feels like without that there isn’t anything sometimes, and it does get lonely. However, when you do get to spend quality time having a good Skype it’s AMAZING!! and although it’s not the same as having him here, it is so much more intimate that just talking on the phone!
The gym for me has been an amazing distraction, as are other lil’ adventures and challenges I’m planning for the duration!!
I have only just found this website over the last few days and it has been fantastic to read everyone’s stories and coping mechanisms.. Thank you!! x
I’ve just found this website and thank god i have. My boyf and I had been together for 7 years, he was promoted and we were waiting for his new posting so that we could finally begin our lives together and actually live in the same city! Disaster struck when his posting was an international posting and he would be sent around the world every few months. Not wanting to put me through anymore heartache he ended things. And now he’s been given 2 weeks notice of a tour in Afghan.
How complicated can our lives be?? We are going to keep in contact so im hoping that being away will make him realise that what we have is strong enough to last and i will be here waiting for him as always.
The MOD really did steal my boyfriend
xx
Aww, Becki, this comment really did make me want to cry!
I cant even begin to understand what you’re going through, but I hope the MoD can find its way to giving back your man
Sorry this doesn’t help, but I wanted to let you know you’re not on your own
L x
It is so good to hear that it is okay to be resentful and angry. I love my boyfriend, but the week before he left for Afghanistan I almost felt as though I didn’t want to spend any time with him. I felt really cold towards him and bitter that he was leaving me. I didn’t understand why I felt this way and felt so guilty. It is so good to know that I’m not alone.
I didn’t plan to fall in love with an army man. Like lots of other girls on here have said, I’m a complete civvie and never have a clue about what to wear to an army ball!
I don’t have any family or friends in the army or know many other army girlfriends so I do feel like I’m completely alone. And although some of my friends and family are supportive they just don’t understand what it’s like. No, it’s not the same as that time your boyfriend went travelling around Australia!!
I’m working hard, studying like mad and running but no amount of work can keep my mind away from him, stop me from worrying or make time go faster. Time is moving by at snails pace, I still have so long to wait and I miss him so terribly.
Reading this blog has given me the courage to say out loud, “I didn’t sign up for this and I hate it!”
So so familiar! I can only promise that it will get easier xx
I have followed this blig ever since me n my partner got together in august last yr…he was sent on exercise for 6wk aftwr we had only been together 2wk….I never thought I would cope but funding this blog really helped….now come Sunday I will b a a military WIFE…how I got here is anyones guess…we hav prob only had 9wk actually together…not seen him since New yr and won’t now till I walk down the aisle. It’s been hard…but I wouldn’t change it…I will soon be moving to b with my man and brickin it a little…but at same time I hav great plans of a new business to keep me busy….being with a solider is so hard but its also so rewarding…as odd as it sounds u start t get used t them not bein around and. It’s no longer the end of the world. I am sure my happy bubble will ppop again sometime and I know when it does I will be able t come back here and get support.